Will I lose friends if I change my life?
Hello, everyone. It’s Roslyn, your recovery coach here. Thank you for being part of this community. It’s a privilege and an honor to have you here. Some of you may have seen that last weekend, I joined a group of 50 people for a Dr. Joe Dispenza meditation session. Many of us have attended one of his advanced seven-day retreats. On the way home, I started reflecting on a common theme that comes up in my coaching sessions. As people start doing this work, they feel like things are slipping away. I want to emphasize that this is how it’s meant to be. We need to allow certain things to slip away because we are changing frequencies, and they no longer align with our new selves.
It might be scary at times, and some people might express concerns like, “If I let go of all these things, there will be no one left.” I can relate to that feeling, and I understand that it’s frightening. However, I want to assure you that it’s a natural part of the process. Don’t stop doing this work because of it. In fact, the falling away of certain things (including friends) can be a blessing and an opportunity for personal growth.
One important aspect of this journey is having a coach or mentor outside of your usual circle of friends and family. This person can provide you with support and connection, making you feel less alone during this transformation.
When you start saying no to things you used to say yes to and set boundaries, not everyone will be excited about it. Some people might react negatively because they are uncomfortable with the changes. But give them permission to leave if necessary. Hold on to your coach and your practices to help you navigate these challenges.
Here are some suggestions to support you on this journey: visit your ICE (Emotional Intensive Care Unit), which is detailed in my book; create new connections and find groups that align with your new path; and try taking yourself out on dates to enjoy your own company and fall in love with the subtle things in life.
The fear and discomfort that arise during this process can be navigated. Don’t hesitate to reach out to me for a 20-minute chat if you’re feeling stuck or scared about making changes in your relationships, jobs, or friendships. Visit my website, roslynsaunders.com, to book a chat and strategize a way to support you through this transformation. Recovery may be done alone, but it can’t be done alone. Surround yourself with the right support to help you take steps towards a more authentic and fulfilling life.
I hope these insights help you, and once again, thank you for being part of my group.
