Hi I am Roslyn Saunders, Codependency Coach and Addiction Coach.
Understanding codependency in relationships is an important topic.
Codependency is a relationship pattern in which one person relies excessively on another for their emotional and psychological needs. It often involves an unhealthy imbalance of power and control, where one person enables the other’s dysfunctional behavior. This can lead to feelings of resentment, anxiety, and low self-esteem for both individuals.
Signs of Codependency
- Low self-esteem: Codependent individuals often struggle with feelings of inadequacy and worthlessness. They may seek validation from others to boost their self-image.
- People-pleasing: They prioritise others’ needs above their own, often to the point of neglecting their own well-being.
- Poor boundaries: They have difficulty setting and maintaining healthy boundaries, leading to them being taken advantage of or feeling overwhelmed.
- Caretaking: They feel responsible for others’ feelings and behaviours, often trying to fix or control them.
- Difficulty with intimacy: They may struggle with emotional vulnerability and have a hard time expressing their true feelings.
Impact on Relationships
Codependency can have a significant negative impact on relationships. It can lead to:
- Resentment: The codependent person may feel resentful of the other person’s dependence on them.
- Conflict: The imbalance of power and control can lead to frequent arguments and disagreements.
- Emotional neglect: Both individuals may neglect their own emotional needs, leading to feelings of loneliness and isolation.
- Enabling: The codependent person may enable the other person’s dysfunctional behaviour, such as addiction or irresponsibility.
Healing from Codependency
If you recognise signs of codependency in yourself or your relationship, there is hope for healing. Here are some steps you can take:
- Acknowledge the problem: The first step is to recognise that codependency is present and that it’s affecting your relationship.
- Seek professional help: As a trained therapist and coach I can provide guidance and support as you work through the patterns of codependency.
- Set boundaries: Learn to say “no” to requests that drain your energy or compromise your values.
- Practice self-care: Prioritise activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul.
- Build self-esteem: Focus on developing a strong sense of self-worth and independence.
Conclusion
Codependency can be a challenging pattern to break, but it’s possible with self-awareness, commitment, and support. By understanding the dynamics of codependency and taking steps to heal, you can create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
Take the Next Step
Ready to delve deeper into your journey of self-discovery and break free from codependency? Take my free codependency quiz and schedule a free discovery call to discuss your results. Let’s work together to empower you on your path to recovery.
Contact me today for a confidential consultation.
Roslyn Saunders Codependency Coach and Addiction Specialist
