Hello, this is Roslyn Saunders, Codependency Recovery Coach. Today, I want to discuss reconnecting with someone after a significant break in a close relationship. It’s not always easy, but with the right approach, it can be incredibly healing.
The first step is to seek support from someone who isn’t emotionally involved. This outside perspective can provide valuable insight as you navigate the process.
Next, it’s crucial to wait for the right time to reach out. Discuss the timing with your support person to assess its suitability. If it’s not the right time yet, you can consider writing a letter or email, but hold off on sending it until you’re emotionally ready.
It’s important to note that reaching out doesn’t mean going back to an unhealthy dynamic. Be mindful not to reconnect with someone who might have a negative impact on your well-being.
I had a client who faced a similar situation. After years of no communication with her close brothers, she felt the need to reach out. We worked on crafting letters that expressed her feelings without assigning blame. She took responsibility for her actions and shared how much she missed the relationship.
When she sent the letters, she didn’t wait anxiously for a response. Interestingly, although there was no direct discussion about the letters, a connection was made a few weeks later. It’s likely that the letters played a role in sparking that reconnection.
If you’re in a similar situation and want guidance on how to reconnect in a way that honors your well-being, feel free to reach out to me. We can have a free 20-minute discussion to explore ideas and emotionally prepare you for this step. Remember, you’re doing this for yourself, coming from a place of honesty and openness. Letting go without attachment is key.
Thank you for listening.
