A lot of people ask me, “Ros how do i fix my codependency”. As a codependency coach I get asked this question on a regular basis.
Codependency. It’s a word that gets thrown around a lot these days, and maybe you’ve even wondered if it applies to you. It’s not always easy to spot, kind of like those tangled earbuds at the bottom of your bag – you know something’s not quite right, but it takes a bit of patience and effort to sort it all out. So how do I fix my codependency?
As a codependency recovery coach, I see people struggling with this every day. They come to me feeling lost, depleted, and unsure of who they are outside of their relationships. But here’s the good news: codependency isn’t a life sentence. It’s a pattern of behaviours that can be unlearned, and with the right support and a good dose of self-compassion, you can absolutely break free.
Now, you might be thinking, “Okay, but where do I even begin?” Well, let’s break it down, shall we?
1. Shining a Light on the Issue: The first step is acknowledging that codependency is playing a role in your life. This might involve some honest self-reflection, maybe even journaling or talking to a trusted friend or therapist. It’s about getting real with yourself and recognising those patterns that keep you stuck.
2. Building Your Inner Strength: Codependency often stems from low self-esteem and a fear of abandonment. So, it’s crucial to start building your sense of self-worth. This might involve things like setting healthy boundaries, saying “no” more often, and prioritising your own needs. It’s about learning to value yourself and your own happiness.
3. Finding Your Voice: Communicating your needs and feelings assertively is key to breaking free from codependent patterns. This doesn’t mean being aggressive, but rather learning to express yourself clearly and honestly, without fear of judgment or rejection. It’s about finding your voice and using it.
4. Re-connecting with Yourself: Often, when we’re caught up in codependent relationships, we lose sight of who we are as individuals. So, it’s important to rediscover your passions, interests, and hobbies. Spend time doing things that bring you joy and make you feel alive. It’s about reconnecting with your authentic self.
5. Seeking Support: Overcoming codependency can be a challenging journey, and it’s okay to ask for help. Consider joining a support group, working with a therapist, or reaching out to a codependency recovery coach. Having a supportive community can make all the difference.
6. Practicing Self-Care: Make sure you’re taking care of your physical and emotional well-being. This might involve things like getting enough sleep, eating nutritious food, exercising regularly, and engaging in activities that help you relax and de-stress. It’s about nurturing yourself from the inside out.
Remember, this is a marathon, not a sprint. There will be ups and downs, moments of doubt, and maybe even a few setbacks along the way. But with persistence, self-compassion, and the right support, you can absolutely break free from codependency and create a life filled with healthy, fulfilling relationships.
And hey, if you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to reach out. I’m here to help you navigate this journey and discover the amazing, independent person you truly are.
