Good morning, everybody. This is Roslyn, your recovery coach. Today, I want to discuss a topic that holds great significance in our journey: the gift of desperation. When we enter recovery, it is often during our most desperate moments in life. That desperation becomes the driving force that compels us to seek help and make positive changes. Personally, I’ve experienced this gift of desperation, where I reach a point where I cannot continue living in the same way, with no alternative solutions or distractions left to rely on. It is in these moments that we roll up our sleeves and truly commit to doing the work because we are desperate for change, desperate for a better life.
However, I want to address something that happens after a while. That initial desperation tends to settle down. The intensity of the situation may fade, and we may find ourselves lacking the same level of drive and motivation that propelled us in the beginning. We can become complacent, thinking that the work is done now that the immediate crisis has passed. But the truth is, there are deeper layers to the work that need our attention.
I’ve noticed that some individuals come to me with a specific situation, and once we address it, they believe the work is finished. However, that initial situation was just the tip of the iceberg. The real work lies beneath the surface, exploring the underlying factors that led to that desperate point in the first place. It is essential to delve deeper and continue the work, even when the urgency may not be as pressing.
I’ve had clients who, after a few weeks, think they don’t need to do the work anymore, only to face new challenges a couple of months down the line. This is because we need to examine what contributed to their situation and uncover any patterns or issues that require attention. We mustn’t stop the work prematurely.
Furthermore, I want to touch upon relationships. Often, when individuals exit a relationship, whether it’s a romantic partnership or a friendship, they assume that everything will return to normal. However, this is the time when we must do the work to understand what kept us in that relationship and ensure we don’t attract similar situations in the future.
I want to express my gratitude for being part of this community. I truly cherish the connections we have here, and it’s a privilege to have each one of you here. If you ever need additional support or guidance, remember that I offer 20-minute chats or discovery calls. You can find a wealth of free resources on my website at RosalindSaunders.com. Take care in the coming days, and until next time, thank you for being here.
