Hello, everyone! It’s Roslyn, your recovery coach, here to share some insights and ideas about codependency for increased awareness. I want to open your mind to recognizing codependent behaviors in your life and how they might be affecting you. We’ll be discussing content from my book, “Codependency Recovery,” specifically on page 71, focusing on moving beyond codependent programming.
Codependency can lead us to two extremes: overacting by trying to control or fix something due to our own emotions, seeking relief, or, on the other hand, becoming paralyzed and unable to act. As codependents, we often find ourselves swinging between these polar opposites.
So, how can we move beyond this programming? Let me share a couple of essential principles from the book. First and foremost, remember that you are 100% responsible for your own behavior. No one else is responsible for your actions or your happiness. If something in your life is causing stress or unhappiness, it’s up to you to address it and seek resolution, rather than trying to “fix” it, which may lead to more problems in the long run.
Similarly, you are not responsible for other people’s behavior, including that of your adult children. It can be challenging to accept this, especially when we have regrets or want to intervene in their lives. While we can support them in a healthy manner, we must avoid enabling them or trying to control their choices.
As a recovery coach, I’ve personally experienced the challenges of codependency in all areas of my life, and I’ve learned the hard way how it can be an insidious condition. Unfortunately, codependency is often misunderstood, which is why I’m so passionate about helping others navigate this journey.
If you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed in your life, experiencing constant conflict, or struggling in relationships, it might be worth considering whether codependency plays a role. I’m here to support you and help you strategize healthier ways to cope with these challenges. Remember, recovery can be a journey we take alone, but it doesn’t mean we can’t seek support from others who understand and have walked a similar path.
I encourage you to reach out to me for a chat, where you can share your situation, and we can explore potential steps to move forward. You can visit my website, roslynsaunders.com, to book an appointment. I’d love to connect with you and provide guidance on your path to healing. Thank you!
