Hi everyone, welcome back. I am Roslyn Saunders, Co-dependency and Addiction Coach Specialist. Thank you for being here today. I just want to do a quick snippet on when we set a boundary that we haven’t previously set before. I want you to realise that feeling wobbly, shaky, doubtful, or anxious, even sick in the middle of your gut, is very normal.
We’re going into new programming, venturing into new areas of our own selves. The reason I want you to know that it’s very normal is to take care of yourself around those feelings, so you don’t go back over and give in to the boundary you’ve already set.
The importance of having a coach or a mentor around you to support you, to hold you in that space, so that we don’t keep going over and over. If we keep setting boundaries and allow people to steamroller over them, they will lose respect for us.
Never set a boundary that we haven’t scaffolded up for. What I’m talking about is having your scaffolding in place for when you send that text, say no to someone, or don’t respond to a call.
Always have your scaffolding set up to hold you and keep your strength when you haven’t got it at that time until those feelings ease out.
So, it’s very normal when we’re putting in new boundaries, setting new paradigms for ourselves to shake, rattle, and roll because we’re going into new depths of our own awareness of our own authenticity. Some people feel sick or start questioning themselves, and what I want to say is it’s very normal to feel these feelings of anxiety. It’s the old programming coming up to try and get you to go back, the addictive mind trying to get you to go back to the old way of living. So, don’t give into that and know that it’s very normal. Also, get support around you to hold you in that space because it eases out if you approach those feelings, feel your feelings, but approach them in a healthy way so that organically the fog can lift and you keep settling into new levels of awareness, new levels of strength, new levels of self-value. I hope that helps today. Thank you.
