Hi Everyone, welcome back. I am Roslyn Saunders, Codependency and Addiction Coach Specialist.
Today’s topic is about denial. The acronym for denial is “Don’t Even Know I Am Lying.”
Now, what happens when we come to recovery? We’re living out the conditioning, all the patterns that have been formed from our younger life. Sometimes, um, how can I say it… yeah, we’re living a paradise of the known, even if it’s uncomfortable. In that unknown, we feel uncomfortable because it’s scary to get outside of ourselves.
Denial, some have said, is our second strongest emotion. What happens is we put up these walls of denial because we feel it keeps us safe. It keeps us safe in the known rather than having the courage to go through to the unknown. So, if that makes sense, um, that’s what denial is – very, very strong. It keeps us in a prison.
I remember Bob Proctor saying that he felt more sorry for the people outside of prisons than the people in them. They’re in a mental prison that they don’t even know they’re in, and they have the key to get out, but we can’t get them out.
So be very mindful. What I’d suggest for this is, obviously, get someone to work through your layers of denial with you. As we go through recovery, we’re lifting off more and more layers of those patterns. Remember, 95% of our patterns and the way we act are stored in our subconscious, so we’re turning that around.
Get someone to work with you, someone you feel is safe, someone that you trust. And as you lift off those layers of denial – denial, don’t even know I am lying – we don’t know, how could we know? And that’s when we gain, little by little, more and more awareness, and our denial breaks down.
The things that we would swear are true… often it’s because we’ve had such a strong wall of denial around it to keep us safe. That’s the ego’s role, to keep us safe and keep us in the knowing so we don’t break out of the patterns. That’s how the ego keeps control of us, and that’s why we keep going round and round and round. We go round and round in cycles of “Oh, this is happening again,” and “I’ll never let this happen again.” And sure enough, those walls of denial and those walls of keeping us stuck in those conditioned behaviours, those conditioned results keep us in denial.
So, I hope that helps. Reach out to me for a 20-minute chat if you have any questions about anything on my lives or any of my information and you don’t quite understand and would like more clarity on it. I do a free 20-minute discovery call.
So remember, just to finish off again, a recap: denial. When we are in the frequency, in the emotions of denial, we will swear black an d blue that something’s not right or something is one way because of our inability to look outside of the strong walls of denial.
So thanks for listening, and I’ll see you next time.
