Hi Everyone, welcome back. I am Roslyn Saunders, Codependency and Addiction Coach Specialist.
Today’s topic is about rushing.
The reason I wanted to bring this up is that we live in a very addictive, always busy, busy, busy society. People are stressed out, and codependents often over-obligate. So we’re rushing around, and we’re not fully present anywhere. We’ve been rushing with our language.
The hardest thing I had to learn to do was to slow down. I don’t use the word “rushing” in my vocabulary anymore, and I actually don’t use the word “busy” either, because I was addicted to being busy. My whole life was busy, and then I’d tell the story about being busy, so it was a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I’ll tell you a little story. A few years ago, my life was frantic and rushed, and I was like a chook with its head cut off. Three times in one day, I locked my keys in the car at different locations. Fortunately, it was different people from the roadside assistance service who came to help me each time, because I was so flustered.
So, what I’m saying is, pay attention to the words “slowing down” and “rushing.” Start to notice those things. If you have to rush to do something, start to say no, I’m not rushing. Think about how you could organize things so you’re not rushing and causing yourself problems. Rushing causes us so many issues; that’s how accidents happen, and they cost us a lot more money in the long run.
Again, slow down. The hardest thing for me to do was learn to slow down. I was too scared to. My whole life was busy, busy, and distraction and running from it was keeping me from looking at myself and facing what was really going on in my life. That might be the case for you as well.
Slowing down… and if something knocks us off balance a little bit, learn to… and that’s what I do with my clients. I slow it down, I settle them down so that we’re taking proper, aligned actions, not actions that are going to cause more problems in our lives, like I used to do. I would go from one drama to another, causing myself more and more stress.
So, just recapping, keep this in mind: slow down. We’re addicted to being busy; we’re addicted to that type of lifestyle. Our autonomic nervous system keeps it going, as do the chemicals it’s releasing into our bodies when we’re doing that.
I hope that helps today. Slow down and start to be more present in life. I’m not asking you to sit there and meditate. I’m just asking you to even slow down when you’re walking somewhere. Just slow it down. That’s helping regulate your autonomic nervous system.
So, I hope that helps today, and thank you for tuning in.
