Hi everyone, Roslyn here. As a Codependency and Addiction Coach Specialist, I often talk about the impact of addiction, not just to substances, but also to behaviours and even emotions. Have you ever considered that your emotions could be something you’re addicted to? It’s a concept that can be hard to grasp, but emotional addiction is a real and often debilitating experience. That’s why I want to talk about the idea of an “emotional addiction test” and what it can mean for you.
While there isn’t one definitive “emotional addiction test” like there is for substance use, there are ways to explore whether your relationship with your emotions might be unhealthy. Think of it less as a formal test and more as a series of self-reflective questions. These questions can help you understand if you’re relying on certain emotions for a “fix” in the same way someone addicted to a substance might crave their drug of choice.
Do any of these resonate with you?
Do you find yourself constantly seeking out drama or conflict? Some people become addicted to the adrenaline rush and emotional intensity that these situations create.
Do you avoid situations that might trigger uncomfortable emotions? This avoidance can be a sign that you’re overly reliant on feeling a certain way and afraid of anything that might disrupt that.
Do you use certain emotions (like anger or sadness) to manipulate or control others? This is a common pattern in codependent relationships, where emotions are used as tools rather than genuine expressions.
Do you feel empty or lost when you’re not experiencing intense emotions? This can be a sign that you’re relying on those emotions to fill a void within yourself.
Do you struggle to regulate your emotions, feeling overwhelmed by them? This difficulty in emotional regulation can lead to seeking out situations that intensify those feelings, creating a cycle of emotional addiction.
Do you prioritise other people’s emotions over your own? This is a classic sign of codependency, and often goes hand-in-hand with emotional addiction. You might be addicted to the feeling of being needed or the drama of other people’s lives.
If several of these questions resonate, it might be worth exploring the possibility of emotional addiction further. Understanding the root cause of these patterns is crucial for healing. Often, emotional addiction stems from unresolved trauma, childhood experiences, or learned behaviours.
What can you do?
The first step is self-awareness. Acknowledging that you might have an unhealthy relationship with your emotions is a huge step. From there, consider the following:
Seek professional help: A therapist or counsellor specialising in addiction and codependency can provide the support and guidance you need to understand and address these patterns. I offer coaching services for this very thing.
Learn emotional regulation skills: Developing healthy coping mechanisms for dealing with difficult emotions is essential. This might include mindfulness, meditation, or other stress-reduction techniques.
Set healthy boundaries: Learning to say no and prioritise your own needs is crucial for breaking free from codependent and emotionally addictive patterns.
Focus on self-care: Nurturing yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually is essential for healing and building a strong sense of self.
Remember, you’re not alone. Many people struggle with emotional addiction. With the right support and tools, you can learn to create a healthier relationship with your emotions and live a more fulfilling life.
If you’d like to explore this further, I offer a codependency quiz on my website. After completing the free codependency and addiction quiz, you can book a free discovery call to discuss your results and see if my coaching services could be beneficial for you. I work with clients via zoom or phone across Australia, including major cities like Brisbane, Melbourne, Sydney, Perth, and everywhere in between. Don’t hesitate to reach out – your journey to emotional well-being starts here.
Warm regards,
Roslyn Saunders Codependency and Addiction Coach Specialist
