Hi I am Roslyn Saunders, Codependency Coach.
Why Am I Codependent? Unraveling the Roots
Do you ever wonder, “Why am I codependent?” You’re not alone. Many people struggle with codependent patterns without fully understanding where they come from. As a codependency recovery coach and counsellor who’s been there myself, I’m here to shed some light on the common underlying causes of codependency.
Early Life Experiences:
Often, the seeds of codependency are sown in childhood. Did you grow up in a home where:
- Emotional needs were neglected? If your parents were emotionally unavailable or dismissive, you may have learned to suppress your needs to avoid further hurt or rejection.
- One or both parents struggled with addiction or mental health issues? Growing up in a chaotic or unpredictable environment can lead to a need to control and fix things, even as an adult.
- You were rewarded for being “good” or taking care of others? This can create a pattern of people-pleasing and prioritising others’ needs above your own.
- Boundaries were unclear or non-existent? Without healthy boundaries, you may have difficulty distinguishing your own feelings and needs from those of others.
Societal and Cultural Factors:
Our society often reinforces codependent behaviors, particularly for women. Messages like “be nice,” “put others first,” and “don’t rock the boat” can contribute to codependent patterns.
Trauma:
Experiencing trauma, such as abuse, neglect, or loss, can also increase the likelihood of developing codependency. Trauma can lead to a deep-seated fear of abandonment and a need to control relationships to feel safe.
Signs You Might Be Codependent:
- Difficulty saying “no”
- Feeling responsible for others’ happiness
- Putting others’ needs before your own
- Low self-esteem
- Fear of abandonment
- Difficulty expressing your feelings
- Staying in unhealthy relationships
Breaking Free from Codependency:
Recognising the roots of your codependency is the first step towards healing. Through codependency counseling, you can:
- Explore your past experiences and how they’ve shaped your current behaviours.
- Challenge unhealthy thought patterns and beliefs.
- Develop healthy boundaries and communication skills.
- Cultivate self-compassion and self-esteem.
- Build healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
If you’re ready to break free from codependency and reclaim your life, I’m here to support you on your journey.
Contact me today to schedule a consultation.
Warmly,
Roslyn Saunders
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Roslyn Saunders Codependency Coach and Addiction Specialist
