Hi Everyone, welcome back. I am Roslyn Saunders, Co-dependency and Addiction Coach Specialist.
Today’s topic is about when we have difficulty making decisions, specifically difficulty trusting our own discernment. This can happen when we’ve made rash or impulsive decisions in the past that haven’t turned out well, leading us to be scared to trust our own judgment.
If you’re struggling with a decision, one thing I recommend is writing out five benefits of doing it and five drawbacks of not doing it. Please send me a private message if you’d like to know more about this system. It works beautifully!
Additionally, seek counsel from someone you trust, someone who seems to make good decisions in their own life. I used to rush into decisions all the time. I was fully codependent and wouldn’t even think things through. The number one thing to do, especially with big decisions, is to take time to really think about it after seeking counsel.
Sometimes I tell my clients to wait 12 hours. My impulse would have been to get it over and done with, but if we can hold on for 12 hours, 2 hours, or even 24 hours, and really look deeply into our motives, we can ask ourselves: Is this decision for the highest good of all? Is it for my highest good in the long term?
This is about impulsivity when making decisions. I’ve made many mistakes by rushing into decisions, feeling like I had to let people know or make a choice right away. It would make me anxious. Get back into alignment, get someone to help you through it, seek counsel, mastermind, ask someone you trust who demonstrates this quality in their life. And before you make the decision, the most important thing is to slow down.
