Hello everyone, it’s Roslyn, your codependency recovery coach. Today’s topic is how other people’s words can only offend you to the degree that you believe them. We all know what it’s like when someone attacks us or when we feel hurt by something someone said. What I want you to do is look inside and ask yourself, “Is this the real truth, and to what degree do I believe what they’re saying or doing to me?” It’s always an inside job. If you need help and support, give me a call. I offer a 20-minute free mini coaching session. If you’re going through something like this, don’t hesitate to reach out, and we can have a chat.
The thing is, if their words didn’t trigger or hurt us, we wouldn’t be concerned about what they said. When we are firm in our resolve about something, and someone makes a false claim, we can confidently say, “That’s not true.” For example, if I don’t smoke or drink alcohol, and someone says, “She drinks alcohol,” I can respond with, “No, I don’t. I know that I don’t engage in those behaviors.” I’m not here to judge people who do; I’m simply emphasizing that we know the truth about who we are. If you need assistance sorting that out, it’s essential to turn to a trusted person for wisdom and advice to help you let go and discover the truth in the matter. This hidden order beneath the situation can enhance your emotional maturity.
Roslyn Saunders
