Roslyn Saunders, Codependency Recovery Coach: Hello, it’s Roslyn, your recovery coach and counselor. Today’s topic and insights are about codependency and men. I feel that there’s a perception out there that it’s mostly a woman’s thing to be codependent, and I do realise that we are brought up to over give. Women tend to over obligate. What I want to tell you is that codependency is present within men as well, exhibiting the same patterns. Maybe they don’t come out and identify with it or want to look at it.
I get a lot of people coming into my marketing and they are men. They ask, “You know, the other thing is…” I think men are suffering out there. They’re not quite as open as women over the years with personal development and that arena. Years ago, you’d go and there wouldn’t be… There’d be one man and like 50 women. I remember going to a lot of courses 30 years ago. Now, more and more men are realizing, men are suffering, men are… They’re lost. So that was what I wanted to say. Codependency is very much present within men as well. In fact, I’ve been coaching a client for five to six months. His name is Justin. I can say his name because I was talking to him about it. What he’s done and I said to Justin, “Would you be open to me interviewing you?” He’s having a wonderful holiday in Bali at the moment. So when he comes back, he said, “I’d be honored, Roz.” In fact, one of the things that has come out of our coaching is that he would like to set up his own business to help men suffering like he was. So I hope that helps today.
Remember, reach out to me for a 20-minute chat, just a casual chat. See if we can pull things apart and give you some support. You know, the number one thing that I keep sharing with my clients is you’re not alone. When you have someone walking beside you, it gives you that sense that someone’s holding your hand, someone’s holding you back when you’re low, someone’s there that you can connect with. If you’re triggered, you don’t spiral down anymore. It’s amazing just knowing you have that confidential support. Often, it’s nobody within your family or your friends, and you start to peel off more and more layers of honesty.
Just to recap, definitely, codependency is present in men. I’ve had a lot of success coaching men. Three years ago, I had two very high-profile professors that I coached. Now, these people have more degrees than the thermometer. However, their emotional life and their ability to say no was making them sick and depressed. So thanks for tuning in today, and I’ll talk to you next time. Thank you, bye.
