Symptoms of Codependency. Do you experience any of these?
Hi, everyone! It’s Roslyn Saunders, your codependency recovery coach.
Thank you for joining me today. I feel privileged and honored to have you in this community.
Today, I want to share some insights from my book, “Codependence Recovery” It’s not a fluffy book; it contains valuable ideas. I’ll be discussing tips from page 47.
Codependency is the mother of all addictions. It underlies other addictions like drinking, overeating, control, drama, overwhelm, and conflict. These things have become normalised in our lives, but it’s essential to recognize the driving force behind them. Codependency is the biggest addiction because it stems from unresolved issues within us, what I call “unresolved issues in our tissues.”
Let’s talk about some common symptoms of codependency. Do you experience depression, anxiety, or panic attacks? These can be terrible experiences, and I remember going through them myself. Depression often arises from suppressing past traumas.
To overcome it, we need to examine and release those suppressed emotions. Sometimes, depression can also stem from a lack of inspiration, so it’s important to identify and pursue activities that truly inspire us.
Do you wake up in the morning with a sense of dread or anxiety about the day ahead? Many of my clients find mornings particularly challenging. If this resonates with you, please reach out to me. I offer a 20-minute discovery session where you can share your experiences, and I may be able to assist you. I promise there’s another way to live, even if it seems difficult right now. I’ve personally lived through codependency, and I understand the fear and vulnerability associated with it.
Another symptom of codependency is a fear of losing people in your life.
You may hold onto unhealthy relationships because you’re afraid of losing those individuals, even if it harms your well-being. There’s also a fear of not being liked by others, leading to a constant need for approval. I used to go to great lengths, compromising my own values, just to please people because I didn’t like myself.
Being too busy taking care of others and neglecting oneself is another common sign of codependency. I was always busy, constantly doing things for others while neglecting my own needs.
However, I’ve learned to proactively go with the flow in a healthy way. It doesn’t mean doing nothing, but rather finding a balance and prioritizing self-care.
Saying “yes” to things you don’t want to do, ignoring your intuition, is another symptom. I used to struggle with saying “no” because I feared rejection or confrontation. But now, I teach my clients how to say “no” without explaining or justifying themselves, allowing them to set healthy boundaries.
These are just a few signs of codependency, and there’s much more to explore. I understand the fear and lack of courage that comes with it. That’s why I work with my clients in manageable steps, focusing on small victories to build emotional strength and overcome codependency. If you’d like to learn more, please visit my website at roslynsaunders.com.au and book a 20-minute discovery call.
I assure you that there’s another way to live, finding more joy and fulfillment in your life. Many people who come to me struggle to remember what brings them joy. It’s time to rediscover that joy and find fulfillment even in the face of challenges. Having someone to support us on this journey is crucial. I appreciate each and every one of you for tuning in today. Thank you!
