Hello, everyone! It’s Roslyn. I’m a licensed counselor who specialises in codependency. Today’s tips are your top 10 potential reasons why you can’t set and hold a boundary, and you know you should and need to, but you just can’t quite do it.
- You fear being mean to them or think that they’ll perceive you as mean.
- You fear being rude or them thinking that you’ve been rude.
- You’re a people-pleaser, a big one.
- You’re anxious about future interactions with that person after you’ve set the boundary or fear that you may lose them.
- You feel powerless.
- You are not sure boundaries will help the situation.
- You get your value from helping others, and it makes you feel like you’re being helpful and needing to be needed.
- You project your feelings about being told no onto the other person.
- You actually have no clue where to start or how to do it.
- You believe that you can’t have boundaries in certain types of relationships, and you can and should.
So let’s keep working on setting those boundaries. As you change and grow, you probably will get stronger and stronger at setting and holding boundaries. I know I have because not to do so never really turns out well, I can promise you that. Hope those tips are helpful today, and I’ll see you in the next video. Thank you!
